Why would I hire a parent coach?

Let’s address the elephant in the room. 

If this is your first time hearing the term “parent coach,” there’s a good chance this sounds fluffy and completely unnecessary.

But hear me out.

When we hear the term “coach,” the first thing that comes to mind for most of us is sports. And why do we have coaches for sports?

Let me take you back to your first season of little league. You saw someone playing baseball and said, “Mommy, Daddy, sign me up!” You (sort of) understand the sport conceptually, but putting that into practice is a skill that you had to learn...from said coach.

Then, you progressed and become a more advanced baseball player. Did you ditch the coach? No. There’s always a coach. You started learning more advanced techniques, you deepened your practice and extended your capabilities to become better at the game, both physically and mentally.

Anyways, back to parenting. 

When you first become a parent, why wouldn’t you hire a coach? 

The presumed answer is that we are supposed to know how to parent, because we were parented by our own parents.

So…just do what your parents did, right?

(Tell this to the new parents taking their baby home from the hospital for the first time. I remember being appalled upon discharge. You’re just going to let me walk out of here with this thing, with no further instruction? Preposterous! But I digress…)

Have you heard the saying that we all become our parents? This common phrase has more scientific truth to it than most people realize, due to what’s called “generational patterns.” Meaning, our nervous systems are programmed in the earliest years of our lives to respond to stressful situations as our parents did. We pass on our responses to stress, conflict, affection, you name it, mostly from how our parents responded to us.

Do you find yourself yelling when your kids don’t listen to you, even though you really don’t want to yell? Do you find yourself shutting down emotionally in response to your child’s big feelings? Walking on eggshells to avoid conflict with your child? Taking away their precious items to punish them when you’ve had enough? Telling them to stop their crying or sending them away to process their feelings?

The list goes on and on. 

Whatever your response to conflict, it’s likely due to an inherited pattern, and not your fault.

That said, these ingrained responses are not fostering connection, mutual respect, or confidence, and they’re not setting your family up to have the relationships you likely hope to have with your children in the long run.

So how do we respond differently? 

That’s where I can help.

I’ve been where you are - stressed, overwhelmed, guilty, unsure. 

Luckily for me, I stumbled upon a parent coach on social media. I was at my own personal rock bottom. It felt like a huge risk - my time, my money…what if it didn’t work?

Ultimately, through my exploratory conversation with my coach, we flipped the narrative.

What if it did work?

Transformation took hold in my home in a matter of weeks. Nearly 6 months on the other side, we continue to grow and evolve as a family in ways I would never have imagined. 

I was so inspired by the transformation I witnessed in my own home that I became a parent coach myself.

It doesn’t matter where you’re at now. You can have children who collaborate with you rather than struggle for power, who run toward you when something is wrong rather than shutting you out. You can deepen your relationship with your children and have peace in your home.

Take the first step. Let’s talk.